Archive for Timers

All in due time…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , on December 14, 2009 by Yasmin Heartsdale

I am toying with the thought of occasional guest bloggers on certain topics as a lot of you within my circle of friends have unique ideas and thoughts on a variety of topics.

With that said, meet Slave.  Slave has a perspective on timers that she would like to share.  Please feel free to comment on her thoughts….


Before I look at what timers mean to me, I’d like to look at what a timer really is.

From Wikipedia I got the following quote:

timer is a specialized type of clock. A timer can be used to control the sequence of an event or process. Whereas a stopwatch counts upwards from zero for measuring elapsed time, a timer counts down from a specified time interval, like an hourglass.

Like the quote says, it can be used to control a sequence of events. Two important things we can see from this already are key words in the quote. Namely: “Control” and “Sequence”

Control as the name implies is the ability to “master” or be “proficient” at something. We’ll come back to that in a moment.

Sequence is a series of events, it contains element and terms. And this number of terms defines the length of a sequence, normally, and especially in our case this is time, in the terms of hours.

Having identified the two keywords about a timer and the meaning of which, lets see what that then means in contrast. As the quote and the keywords imply, a timer is used to “master” a “sequence of events”.

Lets look at timers in SL, mainly in cuffs and restraints, but also in cages. In SL a timer is a acceptable way of making sure a “victim” gets out of a cage after a certain amount of time. In a way, it’s a Domme’s way of controlling how long someone stays in a cage while not physically present. I use the term “victim” loosely, because we all know that some people just LOVE to be in that place.

The real reason I wanted to write about timers is the, in my eyes, complete misuse of the timer in SL. After all, we have just established that a timer is a way to master a sequence of events, in this case, how long something or someone stays locked. So looking at it from that perspective, what does that mean for people wanting a timer to be max. 1 hour, or even shorter. For me that means that those “subs” want to be in control about the amount of time they spend locked up. Which for me means two things, either they don’t want to be locked up, because if you do, you really don’t want a timer at all. Or, you do want to be locked up, but you don’t want to spend a long time helpless, which for me kinda means, that you don’t want to spend a long time locked up.

Okay, not wanting to stay locked up can be for a number of reasons, not what you want, not what you like, you don’t trust your locker. All valid points. When you are alone, without a partner or Mistress, I can understand that you don’t want to spend a lot of time locked up while your “locker” simply never comes back, sadly, SL is FULL of them. But for the most part, I don’t see why you should have a limit like that. I mean, if you trust someone, then you should trust them to let you out again, eventually. If you don’t trust them, why do you play with them then?

Yes, in a way a Domme is still controlling the scene with a timer after she left. But why then the limit of only “1 hour or 30 min”. For me that means for me that you simply don’t trust you Domme’s. But…oh wait, you are still playing with them, even when you don’t trust them….that must mean that…of course, you don’t like it. Hhmmm, makes me wonder why you play then…

See the problem, you don’t want to be left alone for a long period of time. But really a timer is your Domme taking control of the amount of time you stay locked up. So when you don’t agree, same as when you don’t want to get whipped, tough luck. I mean, become a Domme then. I know, bad example, but still. It’s not always about what you want. If you want to get entertained, play WoW, if you want to play scene’s in SL, be proactive. Yeah, that means that you’ll probably spend a lot of time in cages, but honestly, isn’t that what you want?

Is you play for sex, you don’t need cuffs. Play because you like pain, still, no need for long timers. Play because you like to feeling of being controlled, owned, helpless? Then what are you complaining when it takes a little longer then you want? I mean, isn’t that what you wanted?

For me it’s just so weird. We have this system in place to make sure the Domme stays in control, even when she’s no longer physically present, ergo a timer. So, you trust your Domme, otherwise you wouldn’t play, you like bondage for the same reason, you like it. So why then the demand for a short timer. Essentially you wanna top from the bottom. You want something by your rules, your way. It kinda seems like you are not really a sub at all.

It’s not such a bad thing to end a scene with a unlocking session instead of timer session. If you want to stay locked up, then wait till she’s back, if you don’t trust her to come back…well, then don’t play really, but otherwise, trust in that your Domme will set a timer that’s Safe Sane and Consensual. So let her set the timer. Yeah, it can be long, it can be short. But that’s not your choice, now is it? You want to feel helpless, trust me, she’ll make you feel helpless, timer or not. She’ll be back, or not. You are helpless to stop her. And wasn’t that really what you wanted in the first place?